I see her over there pushing her baby in the swing.
She's laughing and tossing her gorgeous hair behind her.
I admire her boots, her gorgeous rain coat
and wonder how she fit into those skinny jeans
when her baby can't be any older than 6 months.
Suddenly I feel frumpy.
My hair is in a messy bun
and I am wearing my husbands old football hoodie as a coat.
I'm wearing yoga pants, again, and have no make up on.
I want to crawl into a hole.
Please don't notice me, I think to myself.
Moments later my super friendly preschooler
has approached the mom and baby and is chatting away to them.
I keep my distance and play with my baby on the teeter totter.
Though soon enough I feel the need to go over
and make sure they don't mind the extra company of my daughter.
Her smile is warm and friendly.
She doesn't let on that my appearance is anything but put together.
She inquired about my children and I ask about hers.
It didn't take long before we were in a deep conversation.
We both connected over our struggle to conceive.
Hers with her first and I with my second.
They are new to town and she hadn't met many friends yet.
An hour passed before we parted ways.
Now that I have lived here for a couple of years
and have met a few other moms,
I am finding that all it takes is a little courage to say hi first.
I am learning to let go of trivial things like messy buns
and over-sized sweaters to reach out and say hello.
We are moms, we don't care about that stuff.
We meet each other in some other universe.
As moms we can connect on levels as low as boogers and lack of sleep,
or as load bearing as birth stories and infertility.
Making new friends at this age is similar to dating.
It's uncomfortable and fear of rejection.
How do we move from meeting at a playground to scheduling a play date,
or even a moms night out?
Do we switch phone numbers or email addresses?
What if we get business cards made?
How do we go that much deeper and grow a friendship?
The same courage it took to say hello.
You just do it.
It might be so incredibly awkward,
but you may be so incredibly thankful you did.
(via huffingtonpost)
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